How to Ease
Feeling anxious about your reunion? Tips for a stress-free
reunion experience from licensed professional clinical counselor Tina Grismer,
Miami Valley Hospital:
Before the reunion, try to connect with someone you know is attending and
possibly go together.
Consider helping with the reunion planning as a way to connect with former
classmates before the event.
See if a partner or spouse will go with you.
Focus on what there is to look forward to and the pros of attending — not the
Have realistic expectations for yourself and the event.
Remember that you can go for an hour and, if you are not having a good time,
"Reunions really are a lot of fun - really!" - JH
Excuses for Not Attending a Class Reunion:
- I don’t have
time (family and work obligations).
- It's too far away (travel expenses).
- Not happy with my appearance, excuse.
- Not interested (nothing in common
with class mates).
- I already keep in touch with everyone I would want to see.
- I'm too embarrassed (not successful enough; nothing
to brag about)
May 12, 2017
High School Reunions; Don't Be Afraid to
High school reunions are adult rituals intended to bring
back pleasant memories of the 'glory days'. For many of us, a class
reunion can also be an emotionally-charged experience. Here are some
ideas to help you prepare.
With every passing year comes yet another enduring adult ritual- the
High School reunion. No doubt many of us have already been to at least
one reunion, or are at least anticipating an official invitation to the
next one. It is one of the few constants in an ever changing world-
touching base with the one group of people you know have shared the same
childhood experiences with you. For many, the experience of a High
School reunion is a very positive and reaffirming one. Connections with
long-lost friends are re-established, and notes on careers and families
are exchanged. Others, however, may find the reunion experience
unsettling and emotionally difficult- old rivalries may be revived or
old romantic dreams shattered. Some may feel insecure about their
present career paths or achievements, while others may feel strangely
disconnected from people they once knew intimately. There can be no
doubt that High School reunions can be emotionally-charged events, and
one should be prepared to deal with the flood of memories that will
Is Your Class Planning a Reunion?
Inquiring Minds Want to Know!?
Please, Send Us Information About Your Reunion Plans Today!!
Graduation in the Rose Bowl
One of the most unique Commencement Exercises in the
world was enjoyed by the students of Muir. One of the best memories
of attending Muir was walking across
the world famous Rose Bowl
field to accept your diploma. Only Muir, Pasadena HS
and Blair HS
can make that amazing claim.
What a thrill, what an honor, what a
- 1967 -
Muir High School Class of 1967 – 50th Year Reunion!
Saturday, July 15, 2017 at the Pasadena Hilton Hotel
Class representative: Wayne Yada
www.reunioncommittee.com or call 661-259-5999 to
IS YOUR CLASS PLANNING ITS
LET US KNOW
WE CAN HELP SPREAD THE WORD!
Class of 1977
Saturday, November 4, 2017,
7:00pm -12:00 midnight at Santa Anita Race Track Club House
285 W. Huntington Dr., Arcadia, CA 91007
$77.00 per person (until 7/7/17 then the
prices will increase).
Make checks payable to "John Muir Alumni
1977" and mail to:
1726 Beverly Dr., Pasadena, CA 91104-2764
So lock in this special rate and purchase
What better place for real Mustangs then at the track?
Please plan to attend, and let us know if you're bringing a
Also, please scan and send photos that you'd like to share
on the night of the
reunion in a group slide presentation. Please include
fun/funny candid shots
of group activities during our school days, or reunions that
you may have had
after our graduation. E-mail them to firstname.lastname@example.org
We're in the process of setting up a PayPal account to aide
payments for the event, but until then please pass on
to mail checks in ASAP because the cost will increase
between now and the
event, and then again at the door, so place your reservation
while the initial ticket price is $77.00 each.
We are still trying to locate missing Mustangs of Class of
Please share with us contact info of our classmates that you
See you soon!
Your Class of 1977 Reunion Committee
If you have
information concerning a class reunion, please drop us an
Seeking Reunion Info...
class of 1947, wants to know if any of her fellow classmates are
planning a reunion? If so please let us know.
Notice to Reunion
When you have a question or concern about a reunion
event posted here, you must direct your comment to the class representative
listed for that event for resolution. We only have the information that you see
Notice to Alumni
While we will gladly work with you on your reunion
plans, we will not plan your reunion and we are not responsible for the outcome,
the sale of tickets, photographs, memory books, accommodations, travel expenses
or any other expense associated with your event.
contact information for members of almost every class. We may share this
information with your committee so that you can advise your classmates of your
planned event. You must be able to verify that you are sanctioned to
represent your class, however.
Make sure that those attending your
event have contact information for you and your planning committee members.
We have a "Reunion Planning Guide" with a list of service providers
recommend. We will, upon request,
provide that information to you.
to Professional Event Planners & Service Providers:
We are continuing to interview alumni committees
as to which avenues
they used to plan their reunions. Based on their responses and other
data, we are compiling a list of venues, bands, DJ's, and other
service providers in the greater San Gabriel Valley area that we
will recommend to our alumni. If you would like to be considered
for inclusion to this list please,
contact us so that we may interview you. Inclusion
to the list will be solely based on your past performance.
(continued from above)
So how should
you prepare emotionally for your upcoming High School
reunion? Consider the following advice as a rough guideline
for dealing with the highs and lows you may experience.
1. We were all 18 once, and we all lived to tell the tale.
Many of us look back on our High School days with a mixture
of pride and embarrassment. We can't believe we wore those
clothes, got those haircuts, hung out with that crowd, said
that to our dates or spent so much money on that junk. These
experiences are universal, and you'll discover how universal
once you start swapping notes at the reunion. If you have
lingering feelings of inadequacy or embarrassment from your
High School days, listen to what the others are saying. More
importantly, listen to what the others are NOT saying. They
are not recalling all of your earlier mistakes in painful
detail. They are not holding you up to the same ridicule you
may have experienced 'back in the day'. If anything, reunion
stories about High School tend to be much more reaffirming
and light-hearted- a feeling of 'hey, we were all in this
together'. Take adult comfort in the fact that very few
people even remember all the 'dumb' things you did as a
teenager. Sometimes we forget to leave a lot of emotional
baggage at the door when attending reunions. By approaching
the reunion in an mature frame of mind, you can enjoy
hearing these anecdotes without fear or dread.
2. Be prepared for 'career envy'. High School reunions can
be very strange events to attend, because quite often the
only element the participants have in common is the fact
that they went to the same High School twenty years ago.
Some have gone on to professional careers and academic
endeavors, while others sought out work in blue-collar
fields, or failed to seek work at all. Whatever your present
career path in life, you may feel a deep sense of failure
after reuniting with 'Dr. Smith' or 'Professor Jones'.
|You may even be
in the position of BEING Dr. Smith, in which case you may
feel resentment mixed in with the congratulations on your
successful career. Either way, be prepared for a wide range
of reactions from your former classmates.
The reality of most High School reunions
is that some of the participants won't want to wish you well
or become more acquainted. You may feel as though your
career goals pale in comparison to others, but you should
not use a reunion as a personal growth measurement crutch.
You are not in competition with these people, so try your
best to put a positive spin on your own accomplishments.
Life is notoriously unfair at times, but reunions are a time
of reaffirmation and growth, not more fodder for resentment.
3. There's an old flame burning in
your eyes. One of the biggest emotional challenges for any
guest at a High School reunion is dealing with former
romantic interests, both real and imagined. At any given
moment, you may find yourself between the cheerleader who
broke your heart and the girl whose heart you broke. Add to
that your present circumstances with a spouse or steady
relationship, and you have all the ingredients for a sticky
situation indeed. What you need here is perspective and
emotional strength. If you are attending this event with
your significant other, remember that they are very much a
part of your present life and will be part of your future as
well. The cheerleader and the girl you left behind are part
of your past, and should probably remain there. The same
holds for the captain of the football team and that geeky
band guy you rejected in ninth grade. When it comes to
affairs of the heart, you cannot always trust your sense of
What you may feel like doing or saying at
the reunion may not be the PROPER thing to do or say,
especially when there are people in your life who may be
hurt. Put your feelings in perspective from the very
|Going to a High School reunion with a hidden
emotional agenda can backfire painfully. If you are still
single and have fantasies of rekindling a romance with your
High School sweetheart, proceed with caution. Respect their
boundaries and accept whatever reality check you are given.
It is much easier emotionally to arrive at the reunion
without an agenda and just allow exchanges to happen
4. "Hey! It's that: a) Nerd b) Jock c) Burnout d) Band
Geek." Stereotypes die hard, and stereotypical behavior may
still run rampant at your reunion. Don't be surprised if
some of the former athletes still resent the studious
classmates, or the former cheerleaders look down on the
'nobodies'. This is behavior that was ingrained for many
formative years, and adulthood will not automatically change
it. You may like to believe that you have no such prejudices
in your own life, but don't be surprised if a few pop out at
the reunion. You may have experienced a tremendous amount of
psychological pain from your treatment at the hands of some
of those now sampling the hors d'oeuvres and dancing the
These issues may still affect how you view the
world as an adult. You do indeed have a right to feel this
way about how you were treated as a teenager by your peers.
Sometimes these repressed feelings surface at reunions, so
be prepared to take a long walk or spend time with friends.
If you find yourself on the other end of the spectrum, don't
give in to peer pressure and renew former prejudices and
stereotypical views. Distance yourself from the 18 year old
version that didn't know any better. A reunion may be your
last best chance to make amends with some people you may
have hurt in the past, or receive a heartfelt apology from a
Enjoy the banquets and the picnics and all
the other great events at a High School reunion, but don't
neglect your emotional health at the same time.